Remembering to Show Love for Your Family

When you think about it, you can easily forget to tell your family you love them each day.

Your family needs daily reassurance that there is a strong foundation in the home, one built upon love.

There is a great line from the film, “Dan in Real Life” that sums it up perfectly.

“Love is not a feeling. It is an ability.”

As a parent, it is challenging to find the time to work, meet all of your kids’ needs, pay the bills, and clean the house. There are simple ways to communicate love in addition to telling your spouse and your kids that message every day.

Showing your love involves action. Here are three things you can do to keep your ability to love alive in your home.

1. Prepare and share a family meal at least once a week. It is a great notion to fix a favorite dish for each member of the family. Or you can rotate each week to cook a different person’s favorite meal.

2. Spend quality time with each family member. It might be playing Monopoly with your child or catching a late movie with your spouse. Each person needs individual time to share with you. Finding the time for each person requires some planning.

3. Commuting together in the car instead of taking separate vehicles to work and school provides the family with quality time. Whether you talk about ordinary things or important stuff, the intimacy of the car ride is perfect for communicating love. Be sure to minimize distractions like music and cell phone conversations.

Adults face many time constraints. Don’t let a busy schedule take away your ability to love through action. It takes persistence to show how much you care. With action, no one will ever doubt how you feel about them.

The Simple Needs of a Happy Person

Thomas Jefferson once said, “I would rather be exposed to the inconveniences attending too much liberty than to those attending too small a degree of it.”

Do you have liberty, or the freedom to choose what you will do in your daily life ?

Consider these five ways to tell if you are a happy person and provides encouragement for people who are unemployed.

Read each paragraph and laugh a little or cry a little.

If you have a job, be grateful.

If you don’t have a job, don’t worry because you can’t be unemployed forever.

Food

Let’s start out with that most basic need of food. Are you dying from starvation? No. Do you have food in your refrigerator? Yes. Then you are happy because you are better off than millions of starving people around the world. The next time you stop by McDonalds or Starbucks, think about how the universe has provided you with the option to eat something every day.

Computer

If you are reading this article, then you have access to a computer. Although having a computer should not be a sign of happiness, if you use the computer to connect to your world, you are happy. Billions of people don’t have access to a computer. You have the means at your disposal to find out about anything. Just go to “Google” and type it in. If you felt unhappy before, be glad that you have access to information. Remember, knowledge is power.

Gas

Do you have gas in your car? Yes. Then you are happy. Why? You have the ability to travel anywhere locally as long as you have gas in your car. It beats the alternative of riding a bicycle or walking everywhere that you need to go. In the summer heat of 100 degrees Fahrenheit, having gas is a good thing.

Air-Conditioning/Heat

Do you have A/C in the summer? Do you have heat in the winter? If you answered yes, then you are happy. You don’t have to scrounge around for fuel to stay warm or cool. Your family isn’t struggling from diseases related to poor ventilation. You have all your basic needs met because, if you have A/C or heat, you obviously have a place to live.

Clothes

Are you wearing clothes? Yes. You are happy. Many people need basic things like clothes. If you go into your closet and find a whole assortment of clothes, then you are better off than most. It’s better to have clothes than to have to sweat and stain your clothes and wear them in this condition over and over.

Family Drama - When Enough is Enough !

Family Drama - When Enough is Enough !

Family drama is often hard on individuals.

This passage examines the feeling of being torn between keeping up family relationships and closing yourself off from them for long periods of time.

Consider the following discussion while keeping in mind that a long-term absence of communication between family members hurts everyone.

If you are the person who chooses to break off contact, you will hurt yourself and your loved ones.

Have you been shut out by a loved one whose reason provided is too much family drama ?

If you are the person being isolated, this reason probably sounds like an excuse.

Call it a way to avoid someone because some feel it is easier to break off communication than to resolve painful issues.

Dealing with family relationships forces people to look inside themselves, and sometimes the results are devastating.

Whether you are cut off because of another’s guilt, pain, revenge, or other negative feeling, realize there is a choice to continue this connection.

People go through very individual stages of dealing with isolation from family. One stage might involve hoping you can reach the person and change his/her mind.

Another stage might involve a cost-benefit analysis of whether you will keep investing energy into this relationship. A third stage might be mourning the loss of a person.

A common stage of any difficult situation is acceptance. Some people take longer to reach acceptance than others. Think about your personal relationships.

Which stage are you at with people who’ve cut you off ?

No stage heals the hole in your heart left by a person you care about deeply.

What about the other side of the coin ? Have you shut a person out of your life ?

Are you aware of the pain that your decision may have caused ?

What were your reasons ?

Did you ever do anything to tear down the wall that you built ?

These are hard questions to ask. It is likely that leaving questions unanswered will prevent you from further personal growth. It is okay to decide you can’t go on living with the situation that you created. It takes courage to mend relationships.

It is hard to reach out again to an isolated loved one. Sometimes life will bring loved ones together, like weddings and funerals. When you find yourself reunited, you must decide whether to rebuild the bond that was broken.

What do you do when confronted with this opportunity ?

Here is advice that always works. Follow your heart.

Your gut instinct will tell you what is right. The crucial factor is to make your decision carefully and consider the long-term impact on you and the rest of the family.

A middle ground resolution is to maintain limited contact and see where the relationship goes in the future.

Family bonds are challenging, especially when you feel you are riding on an emotional roller coaster.

Each day offers a new chance to set boundaries with loved ones.

Remember, love them any way you can.

Olympic Is Here and So Is The DURIAN !!!

08-08-08 - 8Th August 2008 - The most auspicious date for the Chinese communities and mark the start of the 2008 Beijing Olympics.

I'm not going to talk about the 2008 Beijing Olympics here but about the durians.

Yep. The king of fruit is in season now.

I just love it when the durian is in season. I'm talking about the local Malaysian kampung durian which is in season now.

Unlike the Thailand's durian which is available throughout the year. Malaysia's kampung durian is seasonal.


The Malaysian kampung durian variety is much smaller than the Thai's varieties.

A lot of Malaysian loves to eat the durian and I'm one of them.

But the majority of Malaysians loves those expensive D24 variety while I only enjoy the cheap and very small kampung durians.

Those who enjoy durians should try these very small kampung durian fruit. They are usually sold in bulk and you get them for 30 cents to $1.00 each.

Don't be intimated by the cheap price, these small fruits pack a lot surprise. Opening these small durians will reveal different taste and flavour each time.

I have shown my friends why these smaller kampung durians are more tasteful than those expensive D24 versions and they all agreed.

Try these smaller kampung durians and discover the distintive taste yourself.



Video - Angry Bob and His Experince With The Durian